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Barney's Best Manners; this was one of the Bar...

Barney’s Best Manners; this was one of the Barney & Friends videos to have never aired on TV. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Whatever happened to manners?

I know I’m not alone in wondering this as it’s a frequent topic of conversation among my friends and the common factor between us all is that we have to use public transport on a daily basis, also known as a manners-free zone! In the last week I have traveled on three commuter trains with two small children for over an hour at a time when other passengers wouldn’t allow us to have the empty seat next to them, they must have been carrying diamonds or something because their luggage was precious enough to have a seat all of its own. You probably read that last sentence and thought if it was me I would have stood my ground and got someone to move, but here’s the clincher, I did stand my ground and all I got in return was every excuse under the sun and blank stares.

Does anyone say thank you anymore? You know like if you hold a door open for someone or if you stand to one side to allow them to get past? I’ve been stood waiting to get on a bus in the city, having stood there at the front of the queue for some time, only for a woman to barge in front of me when the bus actually arrived. When I tutted and loudly said ‘Oh I’m sorry was I going to sit in YOUR seat’ she turned around and replied ‘Go on you get on with the baby’ like she was doing me a favour?  Another frequent incident on the buses is kids swearing. I’ve had to ask school kids on tons of occasions to stop swearing loudly in front of my kids, although 9 times out of ten they ignore me and continue calling each other every name under the sun at megaphone level.

When I was a kid (don’t worry this isn’t going to be War and Peace) I remember my brother getting a badge at Cubs for helping a woman with her shopping. Imagine witnessing a young lad approach a woman in Tesco to ask if he could carry her shopping for her, it’s just so out of character today.

I suppose the knock on effect of bad manner’s is retaliation. My frustration bubbled over during the bus queue incident and I retaliated to the rude woman and let myself down by getting angry, however if you continue to allow people to take advantage then how do you get anywhere in life, literally? If you don’t ask you don’t get a seat on the bus or train, if you don’t hold a door open for someone then why would they do it for you? How does that saying go again…..treat others as you want to be treated, yeah right if Barney can’t even teach manner’s to kids then we’re all doomed.

NaBloPoMo

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Guest Blog – Geordie on Manners

He’s off again banging on about manners this time. I really feel for my children because they will be talked to death should they ever put a foot wrong when it comes to manners and etiquette. I give you Geordie…..on Manners.

I’d like to think I’m a bit of an old school man because like my Dad, and his Dad I hate to shop. Shopping is such a bore and every where you go there are deals and offers that try to get you to buy products, mainly it’s just smart advertising and you’re not really saving any money, it’s just a scam.

'Manners Makyth Man': the motto of New College...

‘Manners Makyth Man’ (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

The main reason I hate to go shopping is people, once again another situation were people become crazy idiots. I was brought up to have manners and to respect my elders, all the normal stuff  our parents drone on about or get a nice tanned ass. So when I walk through a door I will hold it open and let my wife go first and let others through, surely it’s normal then to expect a little thank you? No, nothing. You get blanked as if your invisible and they walk straight through. It drives me insane, tt’s like they are so important and above you, like it was your duty to hold the door for them! Also when I’m walking through the city people literally try to walk through me, I’m 6’3″ and yet people half my size will not get out of my way and will walk into me if I don’t move. I people watch, a past time my wife has introduced me to and I watch in amazement as people simply can’t deviate from their course to let others by.

Even when I have been in the shops it astonishes me at how rude people are, I mean manners don’t cost a thing. I was in a shop recently and was wandering up an aisle with my daughter in her buggy. At the other end a woman with a double buggy was coming towards me, obviously we both couldn’t fit so being a gentlemen I backed up and let the woman and her twins past. Did she say thank you? Did she hell, she sauntered past with a face like she was sucking a lemon and I’d purposely been in her way. Am I asking too much of people, is saying thank you that difficult? At times I have said ‘You’re welcome‘ very loudly as they pass, and they have the cheek to look at me like I’ve spat on them! What is wrong with people? Why do some find it so hard to be polite, is it their up bringing or is it just the way of our culture now and it’s me who’s in the wrong? Let me know won’t you?

Geordie.

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