Do you believe that absence makes the heart grow fonder? Do you think that long-distance relationships can last?
I never thought I would marry someone who spends half of every year thousands of miles away from me and his family, and the first time Geordie went away with work I felt like my heart was ripped from my chest. I didn’t sleep for a few nights and stopped eating apart from consoling chicken burgers thanks to my house mate who realised I was drowning in sorrow. Honestly, the way I was carrying on you’d think we had split up, but as we’d only been together for 6 months I wasn’t 100% sure we could survive the enforced separation. Fast forward three years and obviously we did get through it and now I’m his girl.
In the last 11 months I have spent at least half of the weekends away from Geordie and he has been away for a few weeks too, and although I don’t enjoy that time alone, I have the kids to look after and keep busy so the separation doesn’t get to me quite as much. Initially we made rules about not arguing over the phone and remembering to consider the conditions when could only call once a week for a few minutes. We still argued and I still went through bouts of doubting his feelings for me when he didn’t ring. There are a couple of positives to come from time spent apart, the first is the return of the honeymoon period and well you can read between the lines there I’m sure, he holds my hand a lot! The other positive aspect is a having a whole stack of bluey’s (airmail letters) to cherish forever and I love to sit and read them when we fall out to remind myself that if we can get through those times I should stop being a cow to Geordie and apologise.
I’m not sure if I believe that absence makes the heart grow fonder, but I do think it can do wonders to revive a relationship. I also believe that long distance relationships have to be built on something other than social media to survive. Grab a pen and just for a change write your words in your own unique font, nothing says I love you like black ink and (not comic sans)